Maybe the Difference is Me.

I keep saying that it’s going so much better this time around than last time around.  I think S is a different baby than M, there are many circumstances that are different, and I am just different too.  I think the first time around maybe you don’t really know who you are.  Or you think you do, but who you are is totally transformed when who you are is instantly defined by someone else and who you are to that person.  Immediately following the birth of my first daughter I didn’t feel like me at all. I literally felt grief for the life I had left behind.  Most of what I used to define myself was changed in that instant. The me I knew, the relationship with R that I knew, even the way I physically felt in my own skin, it all had changed so much. And this time around, I know who I am and adding another child to love to that mix doesn’t change who I am, it just further defines me.

I know so much more now than I knew then.  I know that the infant stage doesn’t last forever and that I need to enjoy her curled up sleeping on me, as I now have to beg my two and a half year old for hugs. In mere months (hopefully) we’ll all sleep all night again. I’ll survive going back to work, even thrive in that environment and the challenge it brings to our lives.  I know I’ll cook again – I already am. I think of all the things I did between M’s birth and now.  Once again there will be evenings where I don’t have to rush to bed because I know I’ll be getting up again soon – I’ll enjoy drinking tea and sitting on the couch, I’ll take up hobbies and yoga again.  And I’ll get to do it all with TWO little girls in my life – so exciting!

S update – almost 4 weeks old and weighs 8 pounds, 1 ounce.

2-16-13 Mom and girls

This entry was posted in Life, Motherhood. Bookmark the permalink.

3 Responses to Maybe the Difference is Me.

  1. ACH says:

    This made me cry. You’ve captured what you’re feeling so beautifully. I’ve always loved who YOU are, and now that you includes being a mom. And you’re such a good mom. M and S are two lucky little ladies, indeed. xx

  2. Andrea says:

    I’m so glad that you are having an easier time around this time. It’s incredible how much happens in such a short amount of time. It really does go too fast. I know mine aren’t grown but there is so much that I already miss, you have to take the time to enjoy it or it’ll be gone. Congrats on being such a great mommy to two wonderful girls. (I know M is and I’m sure S will prove me right when I get to meet her, too) And may I share my inner giggle and head shake that at a month old your little one is still a pound and a half less than mine were at birth…

  3. I loved the newborn stage the second-time around. The nights are long but the months are short. Enjoy those baby snuggles.

Leave a Reply to Leanne - The Mommy Radar Cancel reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s