I was just saying today that even though I am a mom, I still don’t feel like a grown up. And just as I was laying down to bed tonight, it hit me why. I see moms, and always saw my mom, as completely unselfish people. She lived only for me. Everything she did was for me. She never wanted anything in return, she never missed her life before me, she never wished she had more quiet time for this or alone time for that. At least that’s the impression I got. Now that I am a mom, I know that is totally impossible. We are all human. I just picture my mother, and all the mother figures in my life, like my aunts, as SuperWomen. I never saw them struggle or get overwhelmed. They always had it under control, or so it seemed. And now I see, if I hold myself up to those standards, I will never feel grown up. But hey, I guess being a kid at heart isn’t too bad.
Inspiration . . .
Confessions of a Young Married Couple
Left of the Center, Against the Grain
One of my parents best attributes was to keep grown-up things left to the grown-ups to talk about and figure out. I was never told I couldn’t do something because of money and I never heard them discussing our finances. Only when I was out of college did I ask them about it and learned that money was always a struggle. I was shocked for weeks and then awwed by how well they hid their worries and discussions. And immensely thankful. It sounds like your parents were the same way. Absolutely wonderful
No, now you know that they likely *did* struggle and get overwhelmed… because they’re human. :) You are a mom, you’ve just been too busy to notice the change. xo
Jenn, you are a wonderful Mother and Margeaux knows it. That doesn’t mean you can’t do anything for yourself….thats just crazy. Don’t be hard on yourself or worry about some imaginary standard. You are great! And you should tell yourself that at least 2 times a day!